…you don’t feel the need to dance every “tanda”.
…you actually enjoy sitting and listening to the music at a milonga.
…you have no desire to dance outside on a concrete floor, in cold weather, or at other locations not meant for Tango.
…you are aware of the Tango music you are amassing – you no longer download/copy any song that is Tango-like in nature.
…you are no longer interested in volcadas/colgadas/ganchos (if you ever were).
…you no longer attempt to put Tango moves to every piece of music (if you ever did).
…you no longer find it acceptable to hear anything but “golden era” Tango music at a milonga (if you ever did).
…you know how to decline a dance… and you do it.
…you no longer think “El Huracan” is a good piece of music to dance to (unless it’s D’Arienzo’s ’44) and you’ve heard “Desde el alma”, “Corazón de oro”, and Poema” (Canaro) played often enough, thank you.
…you think it’s outrageous to hear 3 or more D’Arienzo Tango tandas played at the milonga (especially if it’s less than 4 hours long)… and in fact, you don’t think everything your local DJ plays is good, is in a properly constructed tanda (i.e., what happened to playing songs from the same era?!), or is being played at the appropriate time in the night (because you can actually hear the difference between the songs AND you are actually listening to the music now).
…you do not want to hear Tango tandas by D’Arienzo and DiSarli following one another (too much!).
…you still love Caló with Berón, but you now know that it is like vanilla-flavoured ice cream (flavoured with REAL vanilla) – simple and special, but not the end-all of Tango music. (A friendly poke to some of you out there – you know who you are ;)
…you no longer think that chest contact alone amounts to an embrace – you want more than a feather-light touch.
…you no longer think that any/every teacher brought to your city or seen on YouTube is amazing and you are not impressed or interested in all the tricks and flashy moves they do.
In many ways, it makes us sad to admit that we are no longer in the Tango honeymoon phase. On the flip-side of the coin, we are happy that we are not dancers who are STUCK in the honeymoon phase – and there are many of those. Once you grow out of the honeymoon phase, that is when you and your dance can begin to mature. We feel that we are now more knowledgeable, our dancing has evolved, and we don’t live in a delusion. We KNOW that Tango in Buenos Aires is so much better.