We assume in all communities there exists certain men who are known to approach almost all women for a dance. They will not even attempt to pick up on any non-verbal cues including a shake of the head in the negative. In fact, they will even ignore verbal cues such as “not now”, “I’m tired”, and “maybe later”. At times, these men will practically drag the women onto the dance floor. All of this should make it perfectly clear to these women what kind of dancing will ensue. These men proceed to mop the floor clean with their partner for the duration of the tanda. It is embarrassing and torturous, and some women quickly learn from this experience and will never again say yes to these men. Others can’t find it in themselves to say no and allow themselves to be tortured over and over again (because “mopping men” tend to be Leading Cheaters).
You never have to dance with a man you do not want to. Please don’t believe otherwise. Use the cabeceo, but if you don’t, remember that this does not negate the fact that women can make choices. We live in a country that tries to provide women with equal rights. Women should grab this equal right by the horns and JUST SAY NO. Stop dancing with the “mopping men” because they do not respect you or your Tango.